By: Tahnee Jones
What triggers insecurity?
There are many facets of this ugly little word… for instance, being insecure about your job, education level, or parenting skills. In this instance, however, what I am referring to is being insecure about the “whole man” or the “whole woman.” If you are suffering from insecurity, and it’s hindering your life, do not be discouraged, you can break away from the chains of insecurity, and destroy them with deliverance from your own mouth!
I can personally testify to once being very insecure about who I was in general, from my physical features down to my personality. This stemmed from childhood. I grew up as an African-American little girl in a predominantly white neighborhood, but I still had to spend weekends and summers with a close cousin who lived on the “black side of town.” I didn’t know how I should carry myself, and I was confused about who I was. When I was at home, I tried to fit in with the white kids by changing my accent to talk like them, dress like them, and even wear my hair the way they did, but when I visited my cousin I was ostracized by the other children of my own race for being “too white.” This really confused my young mind. On top of that, I had a darker skin tone which was not accepted even by my own race, and I was also considered to be a little heavier than the other girls my age.
Comparison, comparison, comparison…from elementary school until my adult years there was always a comparison in my mind to other women. From physical traits to personality, it just always seemed like I was below average. To be honest, insecurity controlled my life inside and out, even after I began walking in salvation. Why? I never addressed it or fully dealt with it. As women especially (since we are created with sensitive feelings), it is imperative that we do not ignore this roadblock, but deal with it immediately.
Here are a few steps to get you started:
- Admit- Dismiss self-denial and admit that you are insecure by confessing it to God first, and I suggest also confessing it to a TRUSTED leader like you pastor or minister you may know ( Psalm 119:26)
- Identify the Root Cause- There is always a root cause when it comes to insecurity, it never just appears out of nowhere. Ask God to reveal to you the root of your insecurity, and when He does bring it to your remembrance…don’t deny it!
- Forgive the Root- If part of the root issue is a person, forgive them! Unforgiveness is a chain of bondage that we are able to destroy by simply forgiving, earnestly from our hearts.
Ladies, if you simply follow the steps above, then you are well on your way to victory. In fact, victory is already yours… you just have to learn to walk in it! The day that I realized that I was truly free, and was able to accept and walk in my victory, is when I realized the truth about insecurity and it’s entire agenda; spiritually, insecurity is of the enemy and is one of his main tactics. He uses this against the minds of God’s people because it hinders us from fully functioning in who God created us to be. Insecurity itself is a form of doubt, and Matthew 12:58 (KJV) explains that Jesus could not do mighty works because of the people’s unbelief, which is a synonym of doubt. Now how can Jesus fully reign in us if we don’t fully believe in ourselves…as in insecurity? At this moment when the Holy Spirit had revealed this to me, I got upset at the enemy because of the trick he had pulled on me my whole life! I really felt a determined to take a stance for my salvation and my sanity against the devil’s influencer. The one thing that I know and believe for sure is that the Bible is right, and anything else is wrong. I had to go to the Word of God to read up on what GOD has to say about me then CHOSE to believe that over what my own mind was saying concerning myself.
Here are some verses that helped me to overcome my insecurity, and hopefully, can help you as well;
- Luke 12:7- “But even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not therefore: ye are of more value than many sparrows.”
- Colossians 1:16-“For by Him all things were created that are in heaven and that are on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or principalities or powers. All things were created through Him and for Him.”
- Psalm 45:11-“So the King will greatly desire your beauty; Because He is your Lord, worship Him.”
The scriptures above concern each one of us on a personal level, but it is up to us whether we believe them or not. The power, ladies, is in our belief system, because everything has already been laid out for us in the Word of God.
Insecurity should never be an issue because according to Colossians 1:16 above, everything was made through Jesus Christ…for Jesus Christ! Imagine God taking His hands and molding us within the heart of His Son, before we were even placed in our mother’s womb. Perfection was created within Him, and we were created just for His good pleasure. Every inch of us from our skin tone, to the way we talk…He desires our beauty. I can say personally that these scriptures keep me sane whenever false emotions of insecurity tried to set in. Notice that I said false emotions because the Bible says, “Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.” (John 8:36). The yokes of insecurity have already been destroyed thousands of years ago with the Word of God, and everything else was sealed with the Blood of Jesus being shed on the earth.
Women of God, lean not on your own understanding but trust in the Word of God. Accept your freedom and live!
Contributing Writer, B.L.O.G. Magazine
Tahnee Jones is a freelance writer who desires to impact women young and seasoned throughout the nations through her works. Having been writing since childhood, she eventually developed a passion towards the woes of womanhood as she experienced many trials throughout her latter teenage years leading into her adulthood. Currently a youth minister, she also serves as Chief of Editorials over the Agape World Harvest International ministry as well as organizes several women’s events through her own women’s ministry “Issues of the Heart”. Inspired by first and foremost the Holy Spirit, she also attributes her inspiration to being a young single mother coming out of the secular world having to stand flat footed for righteousness. With books, a working blog site, and freelance projects all in the works she continues the strive; provoking change in the delicate soul of God’s creation known as woman with hopes bringing about the knowledge and reality of Jesus Christ.