By: Taylor Duckett
In today’s society, there is a negative stigma surrounding absentee fathers. According to lifesitenews.com, the number of people living in single parent homes has doubled since 1960. There are also approximately 15 million children being raised without a father; that is one third of American children. Women become single mothers for various reasons but many of them are holding on to the bitterness and hurt from the man or men who have left them. Holding on to this bitterness, hurt, and anger can lead to a distrust of men which can in turn cause further negative stereotyping of father figures.
“I will be a father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.” -2 Corinthians 6:18
It was not Gods intention for there to be a plethora of single parent homes. No one should grow up without a father. Thankfully, we don’t have to. When we were reconciled to God, we became His sons and daughters and as a result, we can call Him Abba which means Father.
Some of us are content with acknowledging God as Lord and as Savior but not always as Father because of fear. It can be hard to see God in that role when the relationship with a natural father has been difficult or has been non-existant. The fear can be of abandonment or of getting hurt again. It’s not in God’s nature, however, to abandon His children. He instead seeks to build us up and help us reach our full potential.
The bible gives us many of God’s characteristics, one of which is that He is trustworthy. Numbers 23:19 says that God is not a man that He should lie. If he says it he is going to do it. You don’t have to fear broken promises and empty words. God hasn’t broken His word since the creation of the Earth. He is not going to do so now. He is not going to ruin his reputation for you and I.
“Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.”- Proverbs 13:24
God, like any parent, also corrects us. He disciplines but does not provoke us. Because He loves us he doesn’t hesitate to point us in the right direction. When we were children, it wasn’t uncommon for us to get spankings for doing something dangerous such as running out into the street, or put in “time out” for misbehaving. Just like our parents, God does the same thing, always for our own good. He doesn’t punish us in order to be abusive or vindictive. He does it in order to protect us from ourselves. No parent wants to see their children struggle. While there are lessons that we are going to have to learn on our own, correction can keep us from having to repeat the most painful ones .
“Hear, O sons, a father’s instruction, and be attentive, that you may gain insight, for I give you good precepts; do not forsake my teaching. When I was a son with my father, tender, the only one in the sight of my mother, he taught me and said to me, “Let your heart hold fast my words; keep my commandments, and live. Get wisdom; get insight; do not forget, and do not turn away from the words of my mouth.” – Proverbs 4:1-9
God is an infinite source of wisdom and wants to share it with us. We cannot figure out everything on our own, and there is not always a need to do so. When there is someone older who is willing to share their wisdom with you, take as much of it in as possible. Attempting to be a “know-it-all” will only result in delaying progress or potentiallly stressful situations. God doesn’t give us guidance and instruction to be a boss or to be overly controlling. He does it because there are things he knows that we need to learn in order to be successful and move forward.
God promises an inheritance for all of His children, no matter who you are and what your position in life is. He is also compassionate towards us; it’s why he will comfort us when we need it, especially after correcting us . God is also the protector and provider. A father provides for His children and God is no different. He hold all the worlds wealth and riches and he can allocate and distribute them to whomever he pleases, whenever he pleases.
Even if you didn’t grow up with a father figure, know that you are not a fatherless child. You have the best Father of all; you just have to embrace Him as such. Let go of the fear, hurt, and distrust and allow God to be the Father to you that he wants to be!
Contributing Writer, B.L.O.G. Magazine
Taylor Duckett is a student at the University of Miami majoring Economics with minors in Political Science and Business Law and she is also a student at the University of the Supernatural Ministry with a concentration on Youth Ministry. She enjoys writing creatively in her spare time and writes for her college newspaper. Taylor is a woman who strives to glorify God in all that she does.