By Briana D. Williams
Because the theme this month is pregnancy and purpose, I wanted the teens to be able to relate to the topic, so I decided to share my opinion on Teen Pregnancy, seeing that half of The US (and even also large parts of China and many other foreign countries) tune in to MTV every Wednesday to watch the daily lives of teen mother’s on a show (so creatively) called ‘Teen Mom’. Seeing that our wonderful, encouraging society has also chosen to celebrate the arrival of yet another MTV Production about a group of naïve fifteen and sixteen year old girls who are close friends, and have unrealistic ideas about life as teen mothers ,viewing it more as a game, or something ‘fun’ to look forward to…like playing dolls, or ‘house’ as a child.
It seems to me that the ethical view regarding teen pregnancy has been distorted in the media severely. There was a time when scarlet letters were sewn on chests of unwed women at the very thought of having a child out of wedlock, and a pregnant teen was a surprise and embarrassment. Today, the media not only accepts, but glamorizes teen pregnancy!! It’s something to brag about and be proud of! Aside from the glitz and glam of being able to ‘sport’ the baby as a more popular accessory than Paris Hilton’s dog, the media has YET to implement the reality and hardships of having a child as a teen. Yet they call themselves Reality T.V.
No one thinks about God and His will. Remember He says in His Word: “”Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body,” (1 Cor. 6:19-20). It also says, “Flee from sexual immorality” (1 Cor. 6:18).
In other words: lock it up and throw away the key!
If God is the head of our life, shouldn’t we obey His Words? But many people think he is trying to keep them from having ‘fun’. Just for the record: Teen pregnancy, heartbreak, and STD’s are not FUN!
Statistically speaking, three out of four pregnant teens will not finish high school, and is even less likely to further their education to a college degree. The academic aspect is challenging in itself, not to mention the emotional impact of dealing with a high school mate who has YET to reach their maturity level, for the next eighteen years of that teen’s life. All this does not even touch the financial aspect. Teens can barely get fast food jobs, and those minimum-wage paying jobs do not suffice for an entire family. Being ‘grown’ comes with a heavy price.
A sexually active teen who does not use a contraceptive has a 90% chance of becoming pregnant within a year. Even with this information, contraceptives have failed to prevent contraception from happening, and have an even less chance preventing Sexual Transmitted Diseases. The best contraceptive is complete and total ABSTINENCE and ABSTINENCE should be displayed more in the media and school systems.
This seems a foreign concept now to some people. For example, New Mexico, which has the second highest teen birth rate, does not require sex Ed and has no requirements on what should be included when it is taught. Many people have a conflict about whether to teach abstinence in schools, but don’t realize that teens are DYING (literally) to have some sort of boundaries. Sometimes we can’t see past today, and we need help and guidance from those older tha us, as well as the knowledge on HOW to say no. Adults, we also need you to show us that it is possible: by example.
In closing: Motherhood is a BEAUTIFUL thing and a gift to the Earth, don’t get me wrong. But teens are in no way prepared for the great sacrifices that being a parent requires, and until we do..we need to keep ourselves Pure and wait on God!~Father Knows Best!
Briana D. Williams
B.L.O.G. Magazine Contributing Writer
Briana Williams is an 18 year old college student that resides in Queens, New York and attends St. John’s University full time, where she studies Law. Briana is the co-founder of the Teen Chat Line L.I.V.E Ministries Bible Study, which airs by conference call line on Mondays and Wednesdays at 9:00 est. In her spare time, she teaches art to underprivileged students, and performs in the local theatre productions, and performs spoken word across the city. You can reach Briana at firstname.lastname@example.org.