By Taylor Duckett
Mother’s are very special and very important women. They carry you for nine months, and endure hours of labor in order to give you life. They are there for you throughout your life.
Mothers give up a lot for their children. Being a parent isn’t as easy as we may think looking at it from a our perspective. Many mothers are single parents. Not only do they have to go to work during regular business hours, they have to come home and do what sociologists (life scientists) call the “second shift.” This consists of various household chores. Because single mothers are alone their work load is doubled.
In spite of all that our mothers do for us, day in and day out, a lot of times all they get in return is disrespect. It has become increasingly common for children to talk back to their parents; sometimes even hitting them. I am guilty of being disrespectful because I used to talk back to my mother all the time. Sometimes I would say really hurtful things to her. This type of behavior is not okay. The fifth commandment in the Bible is to honor your father and your mother. The fact that it is the first commandment with the promise of long life and is said more than once (Exodus 20:12; Ephesians 6:2) should mean something to us. But sadly, to many it doesn’t.
You reap what you sow. (Galations 6:7) If you dishonor and disrespect, you will reap those things. No one wants to be disrespected by others so why would you mistreat the one person, other than God, who you know has your best interest at heart? Everything you do and say has an effect on your mother whether you realize it or not. Words can and do hurt. They can leave very deep and painful emotional wounds.
No one is perfect and no one has a perfect parent. However, God gave you to them for a purpose. Even if you don’t think so, your mother has things to teach you. Sometimes the lessons are direct such as how to cook and do laundry. Sometimes you learn lessons by watching her mistakes or listening to her when she’s telling you about her mistakes. She does this so that you can avoid making some of the same ones.
We are not always going to get along with our mothers. There will be arguments and disagreements. However, there is a wrong way and a right way to handle them. No matter how ‘right’ you may think you are (or even if you are actually right), you are the child and she is the parent. As much as you may not want to, you need to submit to her authority. Submitting to authority is never easy. When I was living at home, very rarely did I submit to authority; at least not without a fight. Because I was stubborn and willful I had to learn many lessons the hard way. If you can’t love, honor and submit to someone you can see, how can you honor and submit to God whom you can’t see?(1 John 4:20)
It’s so easy to honor our mothers. Some examples are not talking back; if you still live at home helping out around the house; or taking your mom out for a day of fun and relaxation. Regardless of how old you are, your mom will always be one of your biggest cheerleaders and there for you when you need her. Take time out to honor her. Remember: you only get one mom and tomorrow is not promised.
Don’t wait until it is too late!
B.L.O.G. Magazine Contributing Writer
Taylor Duckett is a student at the University of Miami majoring in Political Science and Economics. She enjoys writing creatively in her spare time and writes for her college newspaper. Taylor is a woman who says yes to God everyday no matter what and God is truly the Lord of her life.